A Place That Fully Commits to the Bit There are very few places in Michigan where you can casually say, “Yeah, I got married in Hell,” and people immediately stop what they’re doing. Hell, Michigan somehow manages to feel both like a joke and a fever dream at the same time…which honestly makes it one…
A few nights ago, my ex-husband told me he thinks I am self-absorbed. And honestly? I agree with him. I think people hear the phrase “self-absorbed woman” and immediately picture somebody vain. Somebody emotionally shallow. Somebody obsessed with attention, appearances, or making everything about themselves. That is not the version of self-absorbed I became. Mine…
I’m taking blogs down right now, and the part that keeps sitting like lead in my chest is the fact that I do not actually want to. I want to write freely. I want to speak honestly about my own life, my own marriage, my own experiences, and trust that honesty will simply be allowed…
Grief is often treated like an event—something that happens, something you respond to, something you eventually move past. A loss occurs, you feel it, you process it, and then, ideally, you come out the other side with a lesson neatly tucked into your pocket. That version of grief is comforting. It’s also incomplete. Grief is…
How I Learned to Bleed in Verses and Stitch It Back Together in a Chorus There’s something almost alchemical about songwriting—the way a feeling you can’t explain suddenly finds a rhythm, a structure, a place to live outside your body. For me, that didn’t start with a guitar or a piano. It started with a…
The Work That Doesn’t Clock Out There’s a specific kind of exhaustion that sleep doesn’t touch. It isn’t physical. It doesn’t come from movement you can point to. It comes from holding too many things in your head for too long, from constantly scanning ahead, from living one step in the future so nothing falls…
What Self-Awareness Actually Is Self-awareness is usually framed as one of those traits that fixes everything. You understand yourself, you recognize your patterns, and suddenly you’re better equipped to make healthier choices. It’s tied to emotional intelligence, personal growth, and overall well-being, and the narrative around it is clean, reassuring, and easy to believe. Know…
I’m writing this on a Tuesday, and tomorrow I walk into a courtroom and end my marriage. By the time you’re reading this, it’s done. Signed. Final. Official in a way that feels both overdue and surreal. There’s something strange about existing in both states at once—still married while writing, divorced while posting. It mirrors…
“Opposites attract” sounds cute until you try to live inside it. At first, it feels exciting. You’re drawn to what’s different because it’s new, because it stretches you, because it makes you feel something. The energy is there. The curiosity is there. It feels like balance, like maybe this person has what you’ve been missing.…