Category: Love In Retrograde
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The history, the misunderstanding, and the quiet power of boudoir photography Few things reveal people’s assumptions about women faster than mentioning a boudoir photoshoot. The reactions are usually immediate and surprisingly telling. Some people interpret it as provocative or attention-seeking. Others assume it must be intended for a romantic partner. Occasionally someone will label it…
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Some Roles Are Assigned Early Every family has its quiet systems. Not the ones anyone writes down or talks about openly, but the ones that develop slowly through experience. They form in response to tension, to uncertainty, to the simple need for survival. When my parents split up, my sisters and I developed one of…
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Dating in Your 30s Feels Different Dating in your 30s is a strange landscape. In your twenties, everyone is still assembling their lives. Careers are flexible, people move cities without much hesitation, and relationships often feel like two people figuring things out together. By the time you reach your thirties, something has shifted. Most people…
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Let’s talk about love languages.Not in a cutesy, Pinterest-quiz kind of way—but in the real, raw, why-does-this-hurt-so-much way. The idea is simple: everyone gives and receives love differently.Dr. Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages spells them out: Most of us have a top one or two that really matter.Mine?I need physical touch and quality…
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At some point, dating apps stop feeling like possibility and start feeling like pattern recognition. Not because everyone is the same, but because the presentation is. Same photos. Same answers. Same claims. Different faces, identical scripts. This isn’t cynicism. It’s data collection. I stayed long enough to notice the repetition, long enough to test my…
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The Forgotten Ritual There’s a ritual older than spellwork, more cleansing than smoke, and more transformative than any crystal grid or moonlit manifestation. It doesn’t require candles, herbs, or a perfectly timed moon phase. It’s called: “I’m sorry.” And somehow, it’s the one incantation people refuse to cast. Instead, they dodge and deflect. They clarify…
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They say a father is a daughter’s first love. But really, he’s her first case study—her first example, her first unintentional teacher. Long before girls learn equations or phonics, they learn tone. They learn tension. They learn what affection looks like in practice, not theory. They learn how it feels to be prioritized—or quietly placed…
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Some songs are written in the heat of the moment.This one was written after the body was already cold. Before we get into it, here’s how this post works. These lyrics are read without context—no backstory, no personal history, no explanation of who or what inspired them. Just the song as it exists on the…
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A Love Letter to My Lingering Linguistic Trauma There are breakups you walk away from with a box of old hoodies, a regret or two, maybe a Spotify playlist you pretend you don’t miss…and then there are the ones that leave you flinching at random words like you’re being hunted by a rogue Scrabble tile.…