Tag: mental health
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Prologue: Apparently “Rebound” Was My Love Language Note: This is my perspective, told honestly and to the best of my recollection. Divorce doesn’t feel like freedom at first. It feels like standing barefoot on fault lines—aware the earth is splitting beneath you, but too stunned to move. There’s a strange, eerie calm that settles right…
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Sea Life Aquarium in Kansas City, Missouri 2022—where the tanks were glowing, the jellyfish were vibing, and I…was basically this duck. Bright on the outside, blue on the inside, plopped on a metaphorical plank because Dave decided to blow me off that day. Nothing like ocean ambience and a rubber duck to really highlight the…
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Some songs don’t ask for permission to exist.Some songs show up exhausted, overstimulated, and still expected to function. Before we get into it, here’s how this post works. These lyrics are read without context—no backstory, no personal history, no explanation of who or what inspired them. Just the song as it exists on the page,…
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The Gap No One Sees There is a very specific kind of frustration that comes from being fully aware of what needs to be done and still not being able to initiate it. The list exists. It is clear. It is reasonable. Dishes need to be done. Laundry needs to be folded. Messages need responses.…
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I’ve been on both sides of body shaming. When I was bigger, people said I should lose weight.Now that I have, they say I’ve gone too far. Funny how no one ever stops to ask how I feel—they just measure their comfort against my body and call it concern. The Familiar Voice of “Concern” It’s…
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The One Where I Finally Stopped Settling for “Good Enough” Dave still says therapy doesn’t work for him.But here’s the thing — therapy works. He just hasn’t found the right therapist. And honestly? It took me years—and seven therapists—to find mine. The first one talked more than I did.The second gave me whiplash — one…
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When Sleeplessness Isn’t Mania — It’s the Weight of Everything Anybody who knows me knows I don’t do all-nighters.Jamie used to make fun of me for it — no matter what we were doing, I’d hit my wall by 2AM like clockwork. My brain would just…power down. So when I stayed awake for nearly a…
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When Survival Mode Becomes the Default During a therapy session, I was telling my therapist all the things I’ve been doing to make sure the girls feel safe and secure through all this chaos—because, as always, they’re my #1 priority. She took a pause, then asked:“But how are you holding up?” And I froze. Because…
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The Excuses That Keep Everyone Stuck There’s this phrase people love to hide behind: “When I ___, then I’ll be happy.”It sounds harmless — hopeful, even. But when you zoom out, it’s really just an excuse. I’ve lived surrounded by it. Ex-husband:“When I get a permanent position, we can have a baby.”He gets one.“When we…
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Cracks in the Same Glass Some people fall apart over things you’ve survived a hundred times.That doesn’t make them weak.It makes them human. We all have different emotional thresholds—different “maximum load” signs hanging somewhere deep inside us, whether we know it or not. What barely phases one person might wreck another.What destroys you might roll…